When, as men, we choose to pursue New Age philosophies and beliefs, we are, in effect, turning away from the models that our fathers set for us. While there is freedom and liberation through our new choices, we quickly begin to look for a new "wise man" to fill the void that our fathers once occupied.

Being a Man In the Aquarian Age

by Craig Gordon


As we move into the Aquarian Age, we are presented with the fascinating phenomena of men adjusting to life in a time that is represented by the female, energetically speaking. This shift ? from a patriarchal to matriarchal era ? while esoteric in nature, has already shown signs in our culture. The Women’s Movement is one example of how that shift is coming about. The New Age Movement is another, and the success of women like Oprah Winfrey and Hilary Clinton represent another expression of this "female-oriented" time we have entered into. While the Aquarian Age sounds like a boon for women, what does it mean for men? Where do we men look for guidance? And could it be that Alan Alda is the only role model popular culture can offer the New Age Man? For this issue of Mirabai Magazine we’ll take a look at that question.

From this writer’s perspective – one who’s in the minority of men that is comfortable in this new era – the lack of traditional role models for life in the Aquarian Age is challenging. As I look to my father’s example for what it means to be a man, what I get is a patriarchal perspective. But is following in Dad’s footsteps the path appropriate for these new and uncertain times? Or do I look to my mother for a model for living in this matriarchal age? Actually, what needed is someone in between.

When, as men, we choose to pursue New Age philosophies and beliefs, we are, in effect, turning away from the models that our fathers set for us. While there is freedom and liberation through our new choices, we quickly begin to look for a new "wise man" to fill the void that our fathers once occupied. For many men, that has meant looking to other cultures, often those of the East. We embrace the Dalai Lama, Thich Nhat Hahn, and others to guide us. Some of us actually become monks, methodically modeling our teachers, only to discover, in time, that we can’t discard our individual heritage altogether in pursuit of an appropriate model for conscious living.

What’s become evident through the generation of this month’s issue is that there is no singular answer, no one wise man that all men can look to as a model. But what’s been interesting and useful are the variety of perspectives and experiences of many of the enlightenment seekers right here in Woodstock. For starters, our January Interview features Dr. Ray Bergen. Dr. Bergen has been working as a couple’s counselor, here in Woodstock, for over twenty years. Through his work, Dr. Bergen has distinguished a perspective on relationships which centers around the mythical archetypes of Hero and Goddess, where the man’s lack of an appropriate role model has emerged as the underlying challenge.

In addition to Dr. Bergen’s perspective on New Age male role models, we’ve also included comments culled from conversations with the other male seekers we spoke to, as everyone had something useful to share. Their comments have also inspired us to open the discussion to you, our readers. In an effort to build a community with our readers, we invite you, man or woman, to send us your ideas about male role models in the New Age, and we’ll post some of them on our site.

 

 

 

 

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